FAMILY MATTERS:
Help grandkids see 'reason for season'
___Christmas is upon us. Our family tries very hard to emphasize the "reason for the season." Our daughter-in-law, though, sent us a list of gifts our grandchildren have requested. She indicated she did not want us to worry about what to buy for the grandkids and, also, there would not be duplication of gifts. This has really gotten under my skin. Am I being a bah-humbug?

MARY STEPHENS Vice President Buckner Retirement Services, Dallas

___How wonderful that your family rejoices in the celebration of Christ's birth. The commercialization of Christmas sometimes seems to overwhelm that message.
___It appears you are concerned that your daughter-in-law is emphasizing the gifts of Christmas and not God's ultimate gift of Jesus. If that is the case, you may want to discuss your concerns with her.
___However, she may be trying to help you avoid the hassle of shopping with only vague ideas of what the grandkids want. Also, she may want to avoid uncomfortable situations that occur when you buy children things they do not want. Children's toys and clothes can certainly be expensive.
___Grandparents walk a rather difficult path with these issues. The memories of children at this wonderful season can be impacted by tension. If the gifts are reasonable and within your budget, it could be that you would accept her suggestions. Then go about doing things grandparents do so well--spend time with the grandkids and tell them what is truly important about Christmas.
___Perhaps you could involve the children in activities that emphasize giving. I am sure your local community or church has charities or ministries that need help this time of the year. That way you could emphasize that giving is truly what the season is about. These types of projects often create memories with children that are lifelong.
___Let the children help decide ministries in which they want to participate. Teach them how to make those decisions. Find out information about each ministry and discuss the importance of volunteerism in this wonderful nation of ours.
___What a great way to put deeds to your words about the true meaning of the season. The lessons your grandkids will learn will last far beyond the gifts they receive under the Christmas tree. Our Lord spent much of his ministry on Earth helping those less fortunate than others. Let your grandkids see Christ's love in you.



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