March 27, 2000
FAMILY MATTERS:
My child suddenly
is afraid to fly alone
___Several times a year, my 8-year-old travels to see his dad. He always has flown, and there never has been any hesitation. Recently, he seems to need a lot of assurance that everything will be all right. Even though he wants to see his dad, he's talking about not wanting to go because he doesn't want to fly by himself. How can I help him?
KAY TOWERS
Program Coordinator, LifeWay Fellowship, Killeen
___An 8-year-old often is aware of what goes on around him. With all the media coverage about plane accidents plus the news relating to children being abducted or harmed, it is not surprising children would be concerned. Since he has traveled previously by himself and has not shown concern in the past, it seems obvious something is causing the uncertainty now.
___Communication often is the best key for discovering what's bothering children. Ask him to tell you why he thinks he isn't as excited about going this time. Try to discern what is making him feel uncomfortable.
___Remind him the flight attendants will help him until they turn him over to his father or the one meeting him at the other airport. Talk about his previous trips and what happened from the time he left you until he saw his dad. Assure him the airline personnel are accustomed to children traveling alone, and they will care for him while he is on the plane.
___Discuss some things he might enjoy doing during the plane ride. In his backpack or flight bag, include some snacks as well as things to keep him occupied. Put a note from you to be read after he gets in the air. In the note, remind him you are thinking about what a good time he is going to have with his dad. Let him know you are excited about hearing all about it when he returns home. Remind him he can call you to tell you about the plane ride.
___I am sure you already have taught your son safety precautions. Unfortunately, we live in a world of sin, where many people today prey on children. Parents need to prepare their children without trying to alarm them or make them fearful of everyday experiences.
___Knowing what to do in a situation that makes children uncomfortable is important. They should always know to alert another adult if there is a problem.
___Tell your son you will be praying for him as he travels and while he is away. Affirm to him God is always with us and cares for us. Remind him the Bible says, "When I am afraid, I will trust in you" (Psalm 56:3).
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