FAMILY MATTERS:
Elderly neighbor may need protection
___A couple I have never seen before come to my elderly neighbor's house around the first of every month. They take her to run errands, according to my neighbor. She indicates that since she doesn't drive anymore, these people are helping her. But it disturbs me to see them taking things, such as antique lamps or other items, when they leave. I hate to be suspicious, but it just seems unusual.
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MARY STEPHENS
Vice President
Buckner Retirement Services, Dallas
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___You are astute to notice this change in routine. Although what you describe could be perfectly acceptable, something could be amiss.
___A competent senior adult has the same right as any other adult to do with his or her personal property what he or she wishes. However, exploitation can occur, since the elderly can be an easy target.
___Isolation often leads the elderly to make decisions that may not be in their best interests. And the need for certain services, such as transportation, can make them feel obligated to pay for these services.
___This also is an extremely courteous generation. They may hesitate to say no, particularly if they feel grateful for services rendered. Finances may be limited and material goods, such as the antique lamp, may be the way they can compensate for these services.
___Another dynamic may be occurring. Seniors often indicate they spend the first part of their lives accumulating things and the last part giving them away. Material items that once were so precious are now a means to accomplish an end, such as transportation to attend to essential tasks like banking, grocery shopping or medical appointments.
___If you know her church membership, you could contact the individual in her church who works with senior adults. Perhaps that person could re-establish routine contact with her.
___Your church also could have resources available to her. Such things as church participation in arranging for transportation, either through volunteers or local transportation services for senior adults, would reduce her isolation.
___If, however, you suspect exploitation is occurring, it would be appropriate to contact Adult Protective Services. This agency is responsible for investigating such cases. This may seem like drastic action, but if everything is fine, you can rest assured you did the right thing.
___Although it may be easier to look the other way, watching out for our neighbor is indeed Christ's admonition to us.
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